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..As I walked back to my room, a scene from The Wizard of Oz sprung into my head in which the Wizard tells the Tin Man, “ A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”

Neil Strauss, The Game



Awa Odori

From the 12th to the 15th of August, thousands of men, women and children dance in the streets of Tokushima (on Shikoku Island) for the Awa Odori, an annual dance festival that occurs during O-Bon. As large groups of dancers move in tight synchronization to the accompaniment of drums & flutes, they chant:

Odoni ahoni
Miru aho
Onaji aho nara
Odorana son son!


You’re a fool to dance,
A fool to watch,
Well, if you’re a fool either way,
What a loss, not to dance, a loss, a loss!

A Year in Japan by Kate T. Williamson



Male sexuality may seem on the surface like it runs rampant in society there are strip clubs, porn websites, Maxim-svyle magazines, and titillating advertisements everywhere. But, despite all this, true male desire is often kept repressed. Men think about sex more than they will ever let women, or even each other, know. Teachers think about fucking their students, fathers think about fucking their daughter's friends, doctors think about fucking their patients. And right now, for every woman with even an iota of sex appeal, there's probably a man somewhere in the world who's touching himself and thinking about what it would be like to fuck her. She may not even know him: He may be that businessman who walked past her in the street or the college student who sat across from her on the subway. And any man who tells a woman otherwise is most likely doing so because he's trying to get in her pants, or the pants of someone else within earshot. The great lie ofmodern dating is that in order to sleep with a woman, a man must pretend initially as if he doesn't want to.
Most appalling to women is the male obsession with strippers, porn stars, and teenage girls. It is abhorrent because it threatens a woman's reality. If all men really desire a woman like that, then where does that leave her marriage and happily-ever-after fantasies? She's doomed to live them with a man who really wants that Victoria's Secret model or the neighbor's daughter or that dominatrix in the videos he hides in his closet. As a woman ages, an eighteen-year-old girl will always be eighteen. Love is dashed on the rocks in the face of the possibility that a man doesn't want a person but a body.
Fortunately, this is not the entire story. Men are visual thinkers; thus we're often deceived by our eyes. But the truth is that the fantasy is often better than the reality. I had just learned that lesson. Most men eventually learn that lesson. Mystery may have thought he wanted to live with two girls who love each other as much as they love him, but chances are they'd get on his nerves, team up against him, and eventually make him just as miserable as he'd been with Katya.



Men are not dogs. We merely think we are and, on occasion, act as if we are. But by believing in our nobler nature, women have the amazing power to inspire us to live up to it. This is one reason why men tend to fear commitment – and sometimes.. even rebel against it by endeavouring to bring out the worst in a woman.

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